Valentine's Day is just around the corner and many of you might be saying “oh we've been together so long, it doesn't matter what if he sees me in my long johns or my babydolls.”

Nothing could be further from the truth. If you want the romance in your relationship to come back from the doldrums, then both of you have to work at it.

Now, let's be realistic. Can you bring back the excitement of the first time that you were together? Probably not, but you can spice things up to the point where you can't keep your hands off of each other.

You see, men are fairly simple to figure out at times. They are highly visual creatures. Sexy lingerie plays right into their psychological and physiological needs.

Start by heading to your favorite lingerie shop – which we know of course is Little Black Box! – and get some advice about what type of lingerie will accentuate your sexiness.

Then on Valentine's Day morning, whisper in his ear that “you will have a special something to show him later this evening.” It's important to get him thinking all day about what your special surprise is going to be. A few specially placed love notes and a few sexy texts throughout the day will also help to build up the suspense of what is to come.

Think of him reading those texts while he is beside all of his work buddies!

Then on the big night, continue to build up the suspense from the time he gets home, through dinner and until you reveal your new surprise. Remember, you will have to put forth some effort at getting back the romance, but sexy lingerie can make it easy!

And don't let having kids be an excuse for stopping things in the romance department. Just make sure you have a good lock on the door!